It varies, but typically like 1-5 days a week.
What are these… “friends” you speak of?
tried to developed some friends in college, but its around the time when texting was a big thing, so it never went too far, because one can get obsessive over texting .
Nominally once a week at a scheduled meetup. I’m reality, about once or twice a month.
Like a drifter, I was born to walk alone.
Actually, a psychologist suggested it had more to do with my youth, but whatever. I don’t drift much these days, there’s too many snags, I just keep holding my head above water.
I used to spend at least one day a week with my friends, and when I was in a motorcycle club it was often far more.
Now I run my own business and have no free time really and when I do its recharge time and time spent with my wife.
I see my mates maybe once or twice a month now
Frequency varies, sometimes monthly, sometimes not. All of my friends have dispersed across the country, got married, got divorced, bought houses, went crazy…the usual.
The one thing I need to say here is if that there is a real friend in your life that you value, you still have to invest in that friendship. Once you leave high school/college it’s not just “hanging out”. No one has that kind of free time anymore. If you really value a friendship, make sure you put in the effort. Don’t hang on to one-sided friendships where you are the only one trying, but make sure you’re putting in the effort in an actual good friendship. I know it doesn’t seem like that and you have that vibe that makes you think you’ll always be friends, but adult friendships take more than just a vibe.
Try to do online games with my best friend once a week, I do jams with people in public once or twice a week, will probably be dancing in some capacity once a week, and I’ve got a second date coming up soon. Then there’s weekly D&D, of course, and any of the unique plans that come up during the week.
Of course non of that stops me feeling sorry for myself when I have even one day where I lay around and do nothing but I try to just let the feeling pass instead of worrying about it too much.
All the time.
Some friends I see more often than others, just by virtue of schedules coinciding a bit more conveniently. I try to see someone in person once a week or so. Usually we can get larger groups together for occasions like birthdays and holidays.
Some friends moved too far away to see regularly, but we still keep in touch online, sometimes with video games. I count this separately from the “once a week” statistic above.
There are a small number of former friends (I don’t even want to say former because I still like them, even though I haven’t seen or heard from them in years) who just drifted apart due to differences in interests or just being too caught up in their own priorities to make time (getting married, having kids, juggling multiple jobs, etc.), but the majority of my friend group with kids still make effort to spend time together, and we never mind the kiddos being part of the social fabric either, so as not to make it feel like the kids are any sort of barrier to hanging out.
Sometimes more often sometimes less, but on average 4-5 times a year.
You mean when I’m not depressed, isolated and withdrawn?
I don’t remember…
Me too except also unemployed… I don’t remember which came first.
Scheduled friend time. I have a lesbian friend who has never seen Madoka Magica so we do weekly watch parties. My childhood bestie hosts a weekly Twin Peaks watch party and we theorize together. I have a couple friends who my wife and I do D&D with. I also have an autist friend who I churn butter with since that shit is boring af alone.
Idk why but having a dedicated “butter churning friend” is sending me lol. But that’s awesome for you!
Are people over 40 allowed to reply? Or is that too large of an age gap?
lol. 41 checking in. What are friends? I’m an introverted nerd. I hang out with computers.
I’m surprised OP has moved on from 21-23 year olds
it says 25+ i would assume anyone older 25 can answer.
OP’s post history is fascinating. You have to check out the modlogs of their deleted posts to get the full story. OP is obsessed with 21-23 year olds dating people over 30. They also seem very conflicted about their stance on it, sometimes defending those relationships and talking about their plans to write a story where the hero is dating an older person, other times saying it’s wrong and asking why such relationships in fiction aren’t called out as wrong, and saying heroes should stop it from happening
Oh, so OP got dumped for an older person and is fantasizing about getting a revenge older partner, and then whiplashing back to irrational hatred of the concept of a moderately age gapped relationship?
If this is the case, statistically, more likely OP is a dude than a gal.
Oh, and below this is another comment saying they’re obssessing over a 25+ yo virgin being worthless.
… Uh, yep, yep, that also fits this scenario.
Oh man, this is that one? I went through their history a couple of days ago when they made one of their weird posts.
Some stuff seems to be missing from the modlogs, I distinctly remember a post about Reed Richards and Sue Storm and their age gap
And then there is the obsession with virginity and being useless if you are one and over 25.
And street racing
You would assume that, but op has an obsession with virginity and the age gap in couples.
Whoa, you weren’t joking
I have an active social life but mostly around shared interests, eg book clubs, sports, some activism, etc. Classic friendships not so much, having drifted from childhood friends. Feels like we live in different worlds. My partner has taken that place.
yeah same. i do stuff. i see people. none of them are my friends.
i haven’t had a close regular friendship since my early 20s. mostly because back then we had lots of free time to do nothing but talk about our feelings and shit. once i graduated i no longer had that luxury in life. on the flip side, i was incredibly lonely/depressed most of HS/college sometimes to the point of suicidal thoughts… even though I had many close friends and was socially popular. once i graduated and started spending most of my time alone… i stopped being lonely.
all my old friendships ended because we became radically different people and no longer had any common interests or values. same thing with all my romantic relationships. i never found a partner who wanted to grow or change like I did, so we broke up.
