I mean anything is POSSIBLE. People meet and date and even get married from online communications all the time.

I was chatting up a polish girl on here a while ago. Her name was Nicole.

maybe you should develop a little more?

I mean, one does not ‘find a friend or partner on lemmy’, or anywhere else. Friendship, like love, is something that may happen and that will often not happen but we all need to work for it to maybe become a thing. Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)

Edit: clarifications.

Not a good one.

@Old_Dread_Knight@lemmy.world @asklemmy@lemmy.world

“Is it possible to find a friend or partner…” No. And the explanation is simple: it’s not possible to find what doesn’t exist, and friendships and romances don’t exist.

They’re two of the ultimate mundane illusions. Lies engineered to keep the horse chasing the carrot hanging from its own head. And even if the horse wakes up to the realization that the carrot isn’t even real (it’s just a trick from its head), it can’t simply stop, because it got an indifferent limbic system, a biologically pre-programmed set of instructions compelling the horse to continue the pointless chasing.

Even when (if) Sisyphus come to the realization that the boulder inexorably rolls down and trying to roll it up is pointless, Sisyphus will continue rolling it up because it’s the only thing his gray matter knows, just lies and illusions: the illusion that he, the boulder and the hill somehow “exist” in some kind of “existence”, and the lie that there’s some kind of global maxima, the lie that enough pushing-the-boulder-up will eventually meet the desired equilibrium, some stasis.

And even if there were any existence and there were any “up there” at the hill he was compelled to be, even if he reached the top of the hill, what then? Will Sisyphus pat himself on his own back, congratulating and praising himself for getting the boulder to roll all the way to the top? Maybe there are other Sisypha up there who’ll give him a medal or something…

And the medal will inexorably oxidize and rust, their bodies will eventually decay and the boulder will crumble into dust due to the weather elements… And the hill will undergo erosion, thus making (what’s left of) the boulder to roll downhill, alongside the fossilized skull and bones from all the Sisypha up there.

And no one will remember them because there’ll be no one existing to remember what supposedly existed: not even the hill or the Pale Blue Dot where the hill once was, a planet long since engulfed by a giant red Sun, which in turn ended up obliterated during a collision with former rogue stars from what used to be Andromeda galaxy merging with what used to be the Milky Way galaxy: used to be because, now, every quantum particle is ripped apart due to how the fabric of spacetime continuum is now infinitely stretched, the Big Rip.

And, if we consider that the Sisyphean boulder got equilibrium, it means that all energetic transformations across the cosmos also have their point of equilibrium, and this means that there’s now this cosmic stasis where no energetic transformation happens anymore, the Big Freeze.

In the end, the existent aspect of things, if any, is this: they’re lies, it’s all illusory. There’s nothing, not even the nothingness. It’s just illusory electric signals processed by the illusory brain.

Possible does not mean probable, so yes, it’s possible, but don’t hold your breath.

No. This place is for serious discussion of facts and ideas only. Everybody stop having fun and being friendly.

Just like MySpace had Tom, joining Lemmy automatically adds me as your friend. Unlike Tom, I cannot be removed. We’re friends forever now.

Why not? I’ve heard of people who have met their spouses through World of Warcraft. I’ve met some friends online over the years. If the vibe is right, you can make connections with people just about anywhere.

Finding/making friends on Lemmy is definitely possible. There are a handful of people I talk to outside of Lemmy every day that I originally met here a couple years ago.

I think it helps tremendously if you can find places to interact with others that are less combative than the news/politics/etc that can dominate the feeds here. If you have personal interests in music, movies, tv, or even just want to have casual conversations, there are plenty of communities for that here. Those places give everyone a chance to “break the ice” on a slightly more personal level that helps develop lasting friendships.

I know reddit sucks and all but check out if your local cities have subreddits or if there are any similar groups on other platforms, usually they are at least somewhat active and always have meetups or groups on other platforms such as discord going or whatever else, people there tend to be sociable in person and still understand internet culture. there are a few of such lemmy communities but not nearly as much as reddit at the moment, that could also be a opportunity for y’all btw if you start your own.

Anything is possible.

The question you have to ask yourself is the probability of it worth making a concerted effort to achieve it?

but also the people pmming you on reddit or lemmy are not seeking to be your friend. they are scammers/bots.

If this is your only option for socialization… then something is wrong with your life, please do something before settling on this den of shut-ins and literal children.

Maybe, but Lemmy is such a small service that the chances of there being someone using Lemmy, sharing your interests, being compatible with your sexuality, being single, and is somewhere reasonably close to you, is pretty damn low.

Fuck no, in this depression ridden den of denyers and masters of giving up any kind of non-depressive expression is met with anger, cynism and sarcasm, so good luck with getting to know someone.

Doubly so because people here are obsessed with security and 101 of security is to not dox yourself.