Probably 95% of the time, honestly.

Almost every time, even when it’s something I’m a SME about. I just don’t want to play the popularity/karma game and deal with nonsense.

Would have been great if no one replied to this post.

All. The. Fucking. Time.

3 out of 4 times?

Find myself reiterating something that was already said. Arguing a point nobody cares about. Entering a discussion that I know will not go my way regardless of what info I provide, because even Lemmy has a Hive Mind sometimes and doesn’t like dissent. Realizing half way through writing it that I don’t really know enough about the subject and should just shut up. Or maybe I just think my comment won’t offer anything that contributes to the discussion.

I often type and then realize I’m not really adding anything to the discussion. Then I just discard it.

A lot. I start typing then stop, physically remove my hands from the keyboard and remind myself that A) arguing on the internet never convinced anyone of anything and B) it will make me feel worse, not better.

Often but not as often as I used to on Reddit. On Lemmy, I do feel more of a sense that I can contribute to the conversation and hopefully will be met with more respect than the other place.

We’re building the kind of community we want. I want to be interacting with engaged and respectful people, so I’m trying to be the same. Feels like more ownership, Yknow?

I think of this as like reddit ptsd. People on lemmy have generally been unexpectedly level headed when disagreeing on things.

You’re lucky I’m even responding to this. That’s how often.

I don’t argue. I just state my case. It’s up to the other guy to get offended and defensive.

I often will do this. At the end of writing a comment I ask myself “is my desire to comment satisfied by writing this comment, is it more about me writing it than other people reading it, is the response to the comment more likely to bring bain than joy?” The answers often lead me to just closing the comment page rather than posting it, and I feel fine about that.

Very often, and it doesn’t help that my replies tend to be absurdly long

Towards the end, I either realize that what I want to say has already been said by someone, the argument isn’t worth it (like you said), or what’s on my mind really isn’t worth bothering other people over.

More often than not.

Sometimes I can be pretty mean and stubborn in real life, so I actively try to not bring that here.

I gave up on Internet arguments a while back, felt like I was getting too old. Most of us are grown ups here, so we should all act like grown ups here.